{"id":376,"date":"2009-02-16T00:05:11","date_gmt":"2009-02-15T21:05:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/2009\/02\/16\/dusunduklerime-saygi-duymak-zorundasin\/"},"modified":"2020-04-20T18:13:05","modified_gmt":"2020-04-20T15:13:05","slug":"dusunduklerime-saygi-duymak-zorundasin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/2009\/02\/16\/dusunduklerime-saygi-duymak-zorundasin\/","title":{"rendered":"D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcklerime Sayg\u0131 Duymak Zorundas\u0131n!"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u0130\u015f<\/span> d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda, sosyal ortamlarda bir kez duyduklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 al\u0131yor ve hemen uygular hale geliyoruz. Ya d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcnmek ve sorgulamak?\u2026 Bir ara televizyon yar\u0131<\/span>\u015f<\/span>ma programlar\u0131nda \u201chalk\u0131m ne derse o olur\u201d naralar\u0131 at\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Bir nevi aynalama metodu sanki, her \u00e7\u0131kan ayn\u0131 laf\u0131 ederdi\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00d6rne<\/span>\u011f<\/span>in, beden dilinde konu<\/span>\u015f<\/span>urken burnunu ka<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u0131mak yalan s\u00f6ylemek anlam\u0131na gelir denir. Bunu duyanlar, her burnunu ka<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u0131yan\u0131 sanki yalan s\u00f6yl\u00fcyormu<\/span>\u015f<\/span> gibi d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcn\u00fcrse, o zaman i<\/span>\u015f<\/span>ler kar\u0131<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u0131yor tabii.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Toplumun her kademesinde rastlad\u0131<\/span>\u011f<\/span>\u0131m benzer bir durum var. Ge\u00e7en hafta yap\u0131lan bir sohbette dinlediklerim, bu konuda d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcncelerimi yazmak istememe sebep oldu.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cElbette efendim, o da sizin d\u00fcnya g\u00f6r\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcn\u00fcz. Sayg\u0131 duyar\u0131m.\u201d diyordu bir \u00fcst d\u00fczey profesyonel di<\/span>\u011f<\/span>erine. Sohbetlerini dinledi<\/span>\u011f<\/span>inizde, ki<\/span>\u015f<\/span>i bariz olarak kar<\/span>\u015f<\/span>is\u0131ndaki ki<\/span>\u015f<\/span>inin d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcncelerini onaylam\u0131yordu. Ama d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcncelerine sayg\u0131 duydu<\/span>\u011f<\/span>unu s\u00f6yl\u00fcyordu. Halbuki, savunmas\u0131n\u0131 dinledi<\/span>\u011f<\/span>imizde kar<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u0131s\u0131ndakinin d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcncelerini yanl\u0131<\/span>\u015f<\/span> buldu<\/span>\u011f<\/span>u ve dolay\u0131s\u0131yla sayg\u0131 duymad\u0131<\/span>\u011f<\/span>\u0131 \u00e7ok netti.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Neden inanmad\u0131<\/span>\u011f<\/span>\u0131m\u0131z d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcncelere sayg\u0131 duydu<\/span>\u011f<\/span>umuzu s\u00f6yleriz? Ben bunu garipsiyorum. <\/span>\u0130<\/span>nanmad\u0131<\/span>\u011f<\/span>\u0131m\u0131z, onaylamad\u0131<\/span>\u011f<\/span>\u0131m\u0131z davran\u0131<\/span>\u015f<\/span>lara sayg\u0131 duymamak ola<\/span>\u011f<\/span>and\u0131r. Bu, o hareket ve d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcnce tarz\u0131n\u0131 benimsemedi<\/span>\u011f<\/span>imizi ve benimsemek istemedi<\/span>\u011f<\/span>imizi g\u00f6sterir. Para \u00e7al\u0131p sonradan paray\u0131 yerine koydunuz diye sayg\u0131 duyulmay\u0131 beklemek ne kadar do<\/span>\u011f<\/span>rudur? Bu d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcnce tarz\u0131na sayg\u0131 duymak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fcd\u00fcr? Bana kal\u0131rsa, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de<\/span>\u011f<\/span>il, ama yap\u0131lan hareketi affetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Birka\u00e7 hafta \u00f6nce bir konuya yap\u0131lan online yorumlarda, yorumculardan biri \u0131srarla <\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00f6yle diyordu. \u201cS\u00f6ylediklerime, d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcncelerime, benim g\u00f6r\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>lerime sayg\u0131 duymal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Ben sizinkilere sayg\u0131 duyuyorum!\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Inanmad\u0131<\/strong><\/span>\u011f<\/strong><\/span>\u0131m\u0131z g\u00f6r\u00fc<\/strong><\/span>\u015f<\/strong><\/span>lere, d\u00fc<\/strong><\/span>\u015f<\/strong><\/span>\u00fcncelere, davran\u0131<\/strong><\/span>\u015f<\/strong><\/span>lara <\/strong><\/span>sayg\u0131 duymak zorunda de<\/span>\u011filiz<\/span><\/a><\/strong><\/span>.<\/strong><\/span> B\u00f6yle bir zorunluluk oldu<\/span>\u011f<\/span>unu sanm\u0131yorum. M\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu<\/span>\u011f<\/span>unu da sanm\u0131yorum, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc onaylamad\u0131<\/span>\u011f<\/span>\u0131m\u0131z bir d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcnce ve harekete sayg\u0131 duymak zordur.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Her d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcncemize ve hareketimize herkesin sayg\u0131 duymas\u0131n\u0131 beklemek de kendimizi elde edemeyece<\/span>\u011f<\/span>imiz bir beklenti zincirine sokar. Ayn\u0131 zamanda bu durum, gerekti<\/span>\u011f<\/span>inde kendi d\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcnce ve davran\u0131<\/span>\u015f<\/span>lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 geli<\/span>\u015f<\/span>tirmemize de engel te<\/span>\u015f<\/span>kil edebilir.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Oysa, sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermek zorunda oldu<\/strong><\/span>\u011f<\/strong><\/span>umuz, kar<\/strong><\/span>\u015f<\/strong><\/span>\u0131m\u0131zdakilerin duygular\u0131 yani hissettikleridir.<\/strong><\/span> Kar<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u0131m\u0131zdaki ki<\/span>\u015f<\/span>inin duygular\u0131n\u0131 onaylamad\u0131<\/span>\u011f<\/span>\u0131m\u0131zda, sorunlar ve \u00e7at\u0131<\/span>\u015f<\/span>malar ba<\/span>\u015f<\/span>l\u0131yor. Hissetiklerimiz, bizim ger\u00e7eklerimizdir. Insanlar\u0131n duygular\u0131n\u0131 ele<\/span>\u015f<\/span>tirdi<\/span>\u011f<\/span>imizde, problemler su \u00fcst\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor.\u00a0 D\u00fc<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u00fcnceler ele<\/span>\u015f<\/span>tirilebilir, tart\u0131<\/span>\u015f<\/span>\u0131labilir. Farkl\u0131 fikirlere herkes sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermek zorunda da de<\/span>\u011f<\/span>ildir. Ama her insan\u0131n duygular\u0131na, konu hakk\u0131nda hissettiklerine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermek bir zorunluluktur.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Aradaki fark\u0131 farkedebilmemiz dile<\/span>\u011f<\/span>iyle\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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\u0130\u015f d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda, sosyal ortamlarda bir kez duyduklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 al\u0131yor ve hemen uygular hale geliyoruz. Ya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek ve sorgulamak?\u2026 Bir ara televizyon yar\u0131\u015fma programlar\u0131nda \u201chalk\u0131m ne derse o olur\u201d naralar\u0131 at\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Bir nevi aynalama metodu sanki, her \u00e7\u0131kan ayn\u0131 laf\u0131 ederdi\u2026 \u00d6rne\u011fin, beden dilinde konu\u015furken burnunu ka\u015f\u0131mak yalan s\u00f6ylemek anlam\u0131na gelir denir. Bunu duyanlar, her burnunu ka\u015f\u0131yan\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_s2mail":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[44,69],"tags":[],"views":9020,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/376"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=376"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/376\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5873,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/376\/revisions\/5873"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=376"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=376"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=376"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}