{"id":423,"date":"2009-08-16T16:59:18","date_gmt":"2009-08-16T13:59:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/?p=423"},"modified":"2009-08-16T16:59:18","modified_gmt":"2009-08-16T13:59:18","slug":"hem-suclu-hem-guclu-toplumlar-gelisemez","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/2009\/08\/16\/hem-suclu-hem-guclu-toplumlar-gelisemez\/","title":{"rendered":"Hem Su\u00e7lu Hem G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc Toplumlar Geli\u015femez"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Araban\u0131zla hangi yolda gitseniz, mutlaka kurallara uymayan birileri vard\u0131r. Yanl\u0131\u015f yola girmi\u015f Murat marka araban\u0131n \u015f\u00f6f\u00f6r\u00fc de Ferrari kullanan araban\u0131n \u015f\u00f6f\u00f6r\u00fc de ayn\u0131 tepkiyi verir.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYa, arkada\u015f\u0131m, kenara \u00e7ekilsen nolur? Bu kadar anlay\u0131\u015fs\u0131z olunmaz ki\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Sol tarafta kocaman as\u0131l\u0131 duran \u201csola d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yok\u201d yaz\u0131l\u0131 trafik i\u015faretini g\u00f6sterdi\u011finizde davran\u0131\u015f modeli de\u011fi\u015fmez.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGit i\u015fine be karde\u015fim. \u00c7ekilsene yoldan.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Adam arabadan iner, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda duran ve kurallara uyan araban\u0131n cam\u0131na sert\u00e7e vurur.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSana s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Adam cama vurmaya devam eder.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNe o. Bana s\u00f6z\u00fcm ona ders mi veriyorsun? \u00c7ekil yoldan. Adam\u0131n asab\u0131n\u0131 bozma!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Do\u011fru y\u00f6nde olan araban\u0131n arkas\u0131ndakiler de sab\u0131rs\u0131zlanmaya ba\u015flar. Haks\u0131z olduklar\u0131n\u0131 bildikleri arabaya \u201ckarde\u015fim yanl\u0131\u015f yoldas\u0131n, l\u00fctfen geri \u00e7ekil\u201d demekten ziyade, trafik kurallar\u0131na uyan araba s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc yolu t\u0131kamakla su\u00e7larlar.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBu yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z yak\u0131\u015f\u0131yor mu? Bu yoldan hep sola d\u00f6n\u00fcyor ara\u00e7lar. \u0130zin verseniz \u00f6l\u00fcr m\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcz?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u0130zin verse \u00f6lmeyece\u011fini herkes bilir. <strong>Yanl\u0131<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong> yoldaki ara\u00e7 sahibi, kendi bencil \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131 i\u00e7in toplumun huzurunu bozmaktad\u0131r<\/strong>. <strong>\u00dcz\u00fcc\u00fc olan, toplumun bireyleri ayn\u0131 hatalar\u0131 kendileri tekrar tekrar yapabilmek i\u00e7in hatal\u0131 olan\u0131 korumay\u0131 tercih eder.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u201cAma sola d\u00f6n\u00fclmez i\u015fareti var. Yol bana ait. Bu ara\u00e7 yanl\u0131\u015f y\u00f6nden gitmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmasa, trafik s\u0131k\u0131\u015fmayacak, bu gereksiz sohbeti de yapmak zorunda kalmayaca\u011f\u0131z.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYa yanl\u0131\u015f yapm\u0131\u015f olabilir. N\u2019olacak?! Yol ver olsun bitsin.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cNeden hepimizin vaktini harcayan ve yanl\u0131<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong> yolda olan ara\u00e7 sahibine trafik i<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>aretini g\u00f6sterip, geri \u00e7ekilmesinin uygun olaca<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>\u0131n\u0131 iletmeyi denemiyoruz?\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u00c7att\u0131k ya. Y\u00fcr\u00fc yoksa \u00fcst\u00fcne ben y\u00fcr\u00fcyece\u011fim.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zellikle Istanbul gibi b\u00fcy\u00fck metropollerde ya\u015fayanlar\u0131n her g\u00fcnl\u00fck olaylardan birine \u00f6rnek bu. T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de de\u011fi\u015fimin yap\u0131lamamas\u0131n\u0131n en \u00f6ncelikli sebeplerinin ba\u015f\u0131nda s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131z \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck aray\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z gelmekte. <strong>Bizler bireysel de<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>il giderek daha da bencil bir toplum olma y\u00f6n\u00fcnde ilerliyoruz. <a title=\"bireysellik, bencillik, fatmanur erdogan, biryesel toplumlar\" href=\"http:\/\/www.dogancuceloglu.net\/index.php?sayfa=icerik_goster&amp;id=290\" target=\"_blank\">Ikisi aras\u0131ndaki fark <\/a><\/strong><a title=\"bireysellik, bencillik, fatmanur erdogan, biryesel toplumlar\" href=\"http:\/\/www.dogancuceloglu.net\/index.php?sayfa=icerik_goster&amp;id=290\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>\u015f<\/strong><\/a><strong><a title=\"bireysellik, bencillik, fatmanur erdogan, biryesel toplumlar\" href=\"http:\/\/www.dogancuceloglu.net\/index.php?sayfa=icerik_goster&amp;id=290\" target=\"_blank\">udur<\/a>: bencil toplumlar, sadece kendi \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>\u00fcn\u00fcr ve \u201cBen istedi<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>imi yapar\u0131m, ama senin yapmana izin vermem\u201d der. Bireysel toplumlar \u201cBen istedi<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>imi yapar\u0131m ama kar<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>\u0131mdaki de ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yaparsa buna izin vermek zorunday\u0131m\u201d der. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bu t\u00fcr davran\u0131\u015f, T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de bir \u00e7ok konuda ya\u015fan\u0131yor. \u00d6rne\u011fin, ses yasa\u011f\u0131 olmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen, bar\u2019\u0131n\u0131n sesini sabah\u0131n 4.00\u2019\u00fcne kadar bang\u0131r bang\u0131r a\u00e7an i\u015fletme sahipleri, ya\u015fam kalitenizin d\u00fc\u015fmesine neden olur. \u015eikayet etti\u011finizde \u201cGit benle u\u011fra\u015f. Ben istedi\u011fimi yapar\u0131m.\u201d demeye devam eder.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/tr.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Bireysel_psikoloji\">Hem su\u00e7lu hem g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc toplumlar\u0131n<\/a> asla beklenen ve arzu edilen d\u00fczeyde ilerleme kaydetmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>ildir. T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de bu durumdad\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong> <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Yanl\u0131\u015f yoldan gelen s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc \u201c\u00c7ok \u00f6z\u00fcr dilerim. Yanl\u0131\u015f yolda oldu\u011fumu biliyorum. \u015eimdi geri \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yorum\u201d demek yerine hem su\u00e7lu hem de g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc davranmay\u0131 tercih ediyor.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Attitude_change\">Bu bir davran\u0131\u015f bozuklu\u011fudur.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Yanl\u0131<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong> ve hatal\u0131 oldu<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>umuz yerde \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeyi bilmek, hatal\u0131 oldu<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>umuzu kabul ederek, yanl\u0131<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>\u0131 d\u00fczeltebilmek olgunluk ve geli<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>mi<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>lik g\u00f6stergesidir.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong> <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u0130\u015f hayat\u0131m\u0131zda da durum b\u00f6yledir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Hatal\u0131 oldu<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>umuzda hata yapt\u0131<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kabul edebilmek, bizi hayatta ileriye g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. Hatal\u0131 davrand\u0131<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>\u0131m\u0131zda bunu kabul edebilmek ve <a href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Attitude_%28psychology%29\">davran\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmek,<\/a> \u00f6grenebilen bir insan oldu<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>umuzun ve geli<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>meye a\u00e7\u0131k bir ki<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>ilik oldu<\/strong><strong>\u011f<\/strong><strong>umuzun g\u00f6stergesidir. Bu anlay\u0131<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>a sahip bireyler ne kadar \u00e7ok olursa, toplum olarak o derece dengeli geli<\/strong><strong>\u015f<\/strong><strong>iriz.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Araban\u0131zla hangi yolda gitseniz, mutlaka kurallara uymayan birileri vard\u0131r. Yanl\u0131\u015f yola girmi\u015f Murat marka araban\u0131n \u015f\u00f6f\u00f6r\u00fc de Ferrari kullanan araban\u0131n \u015f\u00f6f\u00f6r\u00fc de ayn\u0131 tepkiyi verir. \u201cYa, arkada\u015f\u0131m, kenara \u00e7ekilsen nolur? Bu kadar anlay\u0131\u015fs\u0131z olunmaz ki\u201d Sol tarafta kocaman as\u0131l\u0131 duran \u201csola d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yok\u201d yaz\u0131l\u0131 trafik i\u015faretini g\u00f6sterdi\u011finizde davran\u0131\u015f modeli de\u011fi\u015fmez. \u201cGit i\u015fine be karde\u015fim. \u00c7ekilsene [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_s2mail":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[57],"tags":[],"views":2566,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/423"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=423"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/423\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=423"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=423"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=423"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}