{"id":638,"date":"2010-05-22T18:11:15","date_gmt":"2010-05-22T15:11:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/?p=638"},"modified":"2010-05-22T18:11:15","modified_gmt":"2010-05-22T15:11:15","slug":"tum-basarilarimizin-tek-mimari-olacak-kadar-narsist-olabilmek-mumkun-mu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kariyeryolculugu.com\/blog\/2010\/05\/22\/tum-basarilarimizin-tek-mimari-olacak-kadar-narsist-olabilmek-mumkun-mu\/","title":{"rendered":"T\u00fcm Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n Tek Mimar\u0131 Olacak Kadar Narsist Olabilmek M\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><strong>\u015eans, tesad\u00fcf yoktur diyor dan\u0131\u015fman b\u00fcy\u00fckler.\u00a0 Yokmu\u015f  \u00f6yle \u015fans diye bir \u015fey, yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her\u015feyi kendimiz yarat\u0131yormu\u015fuz.  Her\u015feyi. Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tek mimar\u0131 bizmi\u015fiz. Akl\u0131m\u0131z, yapt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z,  att\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ad\u0131mlar hep kendimizin eseriymi\u015f.\u00a0 Do\u011fru \u015feyler yaparak,  \u015fans\u0131 kendimize \u00e7ekiyormu\u015fuz. \u00d6yle diyor bir grup b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz&#8230;<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Ben  \u015fansl\u0131 bir insan oldu\u011fumu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnenlerdenim.\u00a0 Ama her \u015fans\u0131 kendimin  yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyorum.\u00a0 \u00d6n\u00fcme f\u0131rsatlar \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131  farkediyor, iyi y\u00f6nde kullanabiliyorum.\u00a0 Hayatta ba\u015fard\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131n hepsini  kendi \u00e7abalar\u0131m\u0131n, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131n, emeklerimin sonucu oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek  bana komik geliyor.<\/p>\n<p>Hayatta tesad\u00fcflere inan\u0131yorum.<strong> Hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131  tesad\u00fcflere ve \u015fanslara b\u0131rakacak kadar geni\u015f olman\u0131n pek faydas\u0131  oldu\u011funu da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyorum.<\/strong> Fakat bu aralar merak\u0131m\u0131 cezbeden bir konu  var: o da &#8211;hayatta her ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n ard\u0131nda kendimiz oldu\u011funa inanman\u0131n,  hayattaki t\u00fcm ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tek sorumlusunun kendimiz oldu\u011funu  d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmenin, narsist ki\u015filikler yaratmada nas\u0131l bir etkisi oldu\u011fu.&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>Tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m  bir dolu ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 insan, milyoner, milyarder, \u015firket sahibi ki\u015filer hep  \u015fansl\u0131 insanlar olduklar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylediler.\u00a0 Diyorlar ki &#8220;biz \u00e7abal\u0131yor,  istediklerimizin pe\u015finden gidiyoruz ama her ba\u015far\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n arkas\u0131ndaki  tek etkenin kendimiz olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131yoruz&#8221;.\u00a0 <span style=\"font-size: small;\"><strong>\u015eans\u0131m  ya\u011fver gitti diyorlar<\/strong><\/span>.\u00a0 Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 insanlar\u0131n belli bir  karakteristik yap\u0131lar\u0131 oldu\u011fu ku\u015fkusuz. Richard Wiseman, \u015fansl\u0131  ki\u015filerin davran\u0131\u015f modellerini incelemi\u015f, f<a title=\"fatmanur erdogan, kariyer yolculugu, sans, tesaduf, kisisel gelisim\" href=\"http:\/\/www.fastcompany.com\/magazine\/72\/realitycheck.html\" target=\"_blank\">orbes&#8217;a yazm\u0131\u015f bunlar\u0131n ne  oldu\u011funu. Sizde burdan okuyun.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Birde  ruhani ki\u015fisel geli\u015fim camias\u0131 var: onlar\u0131nda \u00e7o\u011fu &#8220;yoktur tesad\u00fcf diye  bir\u015fey&#8221; diyor.\u00a0 Sensin diyor her\u015feyin sebebi.\u00a0 <strong>Ki\u015fiye g\u00fc\u00e7 kazand\u0131rmak,  psikolojisini kuvvetlendirmek ya da i\u015finde odaklanarak performans\u0131n\u0131  y\u00fckseltmek i\u00e7in s\u00f6ylenen bu s\u00f6zler, insana &#8220;kontrol sende&#8221; mesaj\u0131  veriyor zihinsel olarak. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc beynimiz kontrolde olmay\u0131 seviyor.\u00a0  Kontrol\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda geli\u015fen olaylarda tedirginlik ya\u015f\u0131yoruz,  belirsizliklerden ho\u015flanm\u0131yor beynimiz.<\/strong> \u00d6yleyse, tesad\u00fcf ve \u015fans yok  demek, sorumlulu\u011fu bireye y\u00fcklemek, bir yerde i\u015fe yar\u0131yor.<\/p>\n<p>Bir de  tabii d\u00fcnyada kontrol edebildi\u011fimiz olaylar var, kontrol edemedi\u011fimiz  olaylar da var.\u00a0 Ba\u015faramad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her olayda su\u00e7u kendimizde aramak, bizi  ruhsal bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fc\u015fe sokabiliyor.\u00a0 Bu zamanlarda da kontrol\u00fcn elimizde  olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 olaylar\u0131 farkedebilmek ve sorumlulu\u011fun kendimizde olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131  bilmek, bizi rahatlat\u0131yor.\u00a0 Hatta \u00f6yle ki, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 insanlar\u0131n bir  karakteristi\u011fi de bu: yani, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olduklar\u0131 her olay\u0131 kendi  sorunlar\u0131 haline getirmemek! Ne enteresan ikilem, de\u011fil mi?<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6rne\u011fin  biliyoruz ki iki insan\u0131 birbirine yak\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131ran en \u00f6nemli fakt\u00f6rlerin  ba\u015f\u0131nda mekansal (fiziksel) yak\u0131nl\u0131k geliyor.\u00a0 Ilkokulunuzun 3. kat\u0131nda okuyor olman\u0131z, o d\u00f6nemde  do\u011fmu\u015f ve o b\u00f6lgede oturanlar aras\u0131ndan olu\u015fan s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n\u0131zdan birileriyle  tan\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olman\u0131z, nas\u0131l sizin ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131z oluyor? Dostluklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n  olu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131n tamamen kendi \u00e7abam\u0131z olmas\u0131ndan kaynaklanmas\u0131 kendimizi iyi  hissettiriyor bize. Ayn\u0131 katta okuyan ki\u015filerin dostluk kurmas\u0131n\u0131n daha  m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011fu ihtimalini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek, bizi pek de memnun etmiyor tabi.  <a title=\"fatmanur erdogan, kariyer yolculugu, sans, tesaduf, kisisel gelisim\" href=\"http:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/science-small-talk\/201002\/down-luck\" target=\"_blank\">Buyrun, Psychology Today&#8217;\u0131n bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131na bir g\u00f6z at\u0131n<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6rne\u011fin,  <a title=\"fatmanur erdogan, kariyer yolculugu, sans, tesaduf, kisisel gelisim\" href=\"http:\/\/www.schizophrenia.com\/prevention\/season.html\" target=\"_blank\">\u015fizofreni hastalar\u0131n\u0131n genelde y\u0131l\u0131n ilk 6 ay\u0131nda do\u011fdu\u011funu biliyoruz<\/a>.  \u015eizofreni \u00e7ocu\u011fu olan anne babalar\u0131, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n do\u011fum tarihini iyi  ayarlamalar\u0131 i\u00e7in uyarmak faydal\u0131 duruyor bu durumda, ama \u015fizofren  \u00e7ocu\u011fu olanlar sizce bu \u015fans\u0131 hakettiklerinden dolay\u0131 m\u0131 durum b\u00f6yle?<strong><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><strong> <\/strong><\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-size: small;\"> Sarho\u015f bir s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcn yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 kazaya kurban giden insan, kendi hatas\u0131n\u0131n m\u0131 kurban\u0131 her zaman?<\/span><strong><span style=\"font-size: small;\"><strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/span><\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>Insano\u011flu  ne zaman kendini bu kadar y\u00fcce ve b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6r\u00fcr oldu?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Eskiden,  tanr\u0131lara inan\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131, onlara tap\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131 ya.\u00a0 \u015eimdi de insano\u011flu kendine  inan\u0131yor, kendine tap\u0131yor galiba.\u00a0 Ah evet, bu bir tesad\u00fcf de\u011fil  elbette&#8230;kendi ektiklerimizi mi bi\u00e7iyoruz ne?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u015eans, tesad\u00fcf yoktur diyor dan\u0131\u015fman b\u00fcy\u00fckler.\u00a0 Yokmu\u015f \u00f6yle \u015fans diye bir \u015fey, yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her\u015feyi kendimiz yarat\u0131yormu\u015fuz. Her\u015feyi. Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tek mimar\u0131 bizmi\u015fiz. Akl\u0131m\u0131z, yapt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z, att\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ad\u0131mlar hep kendimizin eseriymi\u015f.\u00a0 Do\u011fru \u015feyler yaparak, \u015fans\u0131 kendimize \u00e7ekiyormu\u015fuz. \u00d6yle diyor bir grup b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz&#8230; Ben \u015fansl\u0131 bir insan oldu\u011fumu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnenlerdenim.\u00a0 Ama her \u015fans\u0131 kendimin yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyorum.\u00a0 \u00d6n\u00fcme f\u0131rsatlar \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. 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